Look at me, I’m Autistic!!
I’m better than you. I know things, understand things, see things, in a way you never will.
But I’m not..
I’m not better than you.
You have talents I will never have. The ability to socially integrate yourself, to enjoy small talk, not to make that horrible faux pas, to understand the dynamics of social activities and the finer points of human relationships.
But nobody is better. You and I are just different aspects of the evolutionary path.
We want you to understand us, be aware of who we are and what we can do, accept us and use our talents because we have so much to offer you.
Think of it as a mutually beneficial partnership. Our strengths and your weaknesses, your strengths and our weaknesses.
But there is a rotten core at the heart of Autism.
They use intelligence as a weapon. They’re not just good, they’re the best. They look down on NTs with a smugness and superiority complex that borders on the cloying. They make demands.
And they claim to represent us!.
We may well be highly intelligent (I’m not) and if you want to put your IQ out there to intimidate a few people then I am sure you will (IQ tests are pointless except as boosts to fragile egos).
But being bright or clever or smart doesn’t make you a better person.
“NTs must adapt. They must become aware. They must know about us and what we can do because we’re better than them”
And that’s it isn’t it ?. What NTs “must” do!.
Many NTs I know are ignorant of Autism. Yes they’ve heard the word, presume we’re all geniuses but lack any further understanding. Or understanding on a deeper level.
But I don’t force them to understand.
I ask them if they are interested. I offer my own insights. I offer educational material. I tell them my strengths.
And I show them my weaknesses.
I don’t use the word must. I don’t use my Autism and their ignorance as a club to beat them with.
I’m not force feeding them!
But some of a more militant leaning want exactly that. The scorn they pour down on the NT community for not knowing more or doing more, shames me.
Demanding respect is a sure fire way of losing it.
Cut the arrogance. Cut the bile. Learn respect if you want to be respected. Lose the ego. Start working with people. And start working with them at their level.
We love big words. Even I don’t understand most of them. But if I, as an Autistic person, doesn’t know the point you are trying to make, then how will they ?. If I don’t understand the language of Autism (as you present it) then why should an NT even make the attempt ?.
So cut the hyperbole. Cut the crap.
And actually engage them in a conversation. Don’t shout at them. Don’t demean them for a lack of understanding or an understanding limited to Rainman.
Establish what they know and use that as the starting point. Never assume.
And stop thinking or saying you represent me.
I have my own voice. If you want to hear it then ask me to speak.
I’m not in your gang. I’m not in your group, your tribe, your legion or your army.
I am my own person. I want to be the friendly face of Autism. Correction. I want to be A friendly face of Autism. I’m not pushing anyone into anything. That’s what’s happened to me my whole life but I’m not out for revenge. It’s not about vengeance. It’s about living and growing.
For everyone. NT and Autistic.
But there is a rotten core at the heart of Autism. A militant movement that threatens to derail us. That could do us more harm than good.
And I don’t want them to win.
I don’t want them to represent me.
Do you ?