I’ve been off Twitter for a while and just posted my blogs but yesterday, in a terrible mistake, I read some tweets on my timeline and was immediately reminded of why it’s not safe to go back.
I seemed to have landed in the middle of a torrent of abuse aimed at white males (me) who are, apparently, all misogynistic and who spend their days making unwanted advances to women. Yes, that’s right all white men.
I was reminded of being called a misogynistic white male c**t a few months ago for the crime of disagreeing with someone over something so trivial that it barely deserves mentioning and here I was again watching tweets and retweets fly by.
And then I noticed that someone I trust, someone I thought I could trust, was busily retweeting this male hate with gleeful abandon.
So I presume they think that I too am a misogynistic male who makes unwanted advances on women!
Disappointed is too small a word.
Yes I’m a white male, yes I understand that I enjoy white male privilege but no, I am not a misogynist and no, I don’t make unwelcome advances towards women.
1. I work almost exclusively with women. On my section there are four ladies and me. My boss is a woman. My bosses boss is a woman. Apparently I’m extremely popular because of my helpful attitude and get it done approach.
2. I don’t think my partner would appreciate me making approaches towards other women. She’s been hurt enough thank you and I’m not the cheating type.
3. If I go out to socialise then my partner comes with me. We go out with two ladies from work. That’s three women and me. I prefer women over men. I’m proud of my partner and like having her close by.
4. I barely know how to approach a woman let alone in an unwelcome manner. I’m Autistic. I bumble about, I’m not sure what I’m doing, I’m awkward and dating was never a strong suit. If that comes across as being an unwelcome advance then I sincerely apologise but yeah, I’m not a natural at small talk or chatting anyone up. You can ask my partner as I don’t think it was my charm or dazzling wit that attracted me to her, rather a generous spirit and gentle, caring nature.
5. If you are talking about a male using sexually explicit language then telling him to “F**k off you c**t” does not give you the moral high ground. Two of those words could be termed sexually explicit and instead of blocking (although perhaps you did that) you’ve just entered into a war of words and are maintaining an undesirable relationship.
I feel really upset about this. I feel personally attacked and, due to the retweets, unsupported, demonised even, by someone I though I could trust.
I know there are bad people out there. I know there are misogynistic men, male chauvinists and women haters out there. I also know there are women who hate men (personally encountered that) but that is life. Yes I would like us all to get along, be friends, accept and celebrate our similarities and our differences but it won’t happen anytime soon and it won’t happen if people wildly generalise about a gender, race, creed, religion, belief system without think no it through first of all.
Twitter can be so toxic.
Please just stop it!