Sex and Sexuality – Why does it matter ? 

Apologies to anyone who saw the title and thought that someone had discovered a sequel to the Jane Austen classic “Sense and Sensibility” ..

But I want to talk about sex. 

Not graphically but sex in the context of how some people seem to be getting over excited about other people and what they do in their private lives. 

I’m heterosexual. 

And you know what ?. That isn’t important. It doesn’t make me better than anyone else or mean I can take the moral high ground because I am part of the majority sexual group. 

It’s my choice and because I have freedom of choice I also respect other people’s choices in however they wish to describe their sexuality. People can be gay, bi, pansexual, asexual, not interested in sex or nymphomaniacs for all I care. It’s really none of my business. 

But the problem that arises goes something like this. 

A gay couple walk by. Cue comment from someone who sees them, “It’s disgusting isn’t it ?; what they get up to!”. 

What they get up to..

Now I don’t know about you (nor do I really want to) but Sex forms a small part of my life. And, surprise, surprise, it probably does for those of any other sexual persuasion as well. 

I’m quite sure, in amongst all this stuff they’re getting up to, that they go to work, watch Tv, walk the dog, do the shopping, cook some food, wash the dishes and do the 1001 other boring and normal things that fill our lives. 

So why is it sex that’s being highlighted ?.

“Oh it makes you sick doesn’t it. When you think about it..” 

Then why are you thinking about it ?. Why are you thinking about something that apparently disgusts you ?. 

I don’t think about my colleagues sex lives. I don’t watch people in the street and think about how much sex they do, or don’t have. Why is it my business ?. What does it matter to me what they do in their private lives ?. 

I don’t know if there is some curiosity at work here, some jealousy or some other reason but if I see a gay couple shopping in my local supermarket I can tell you I’m more interested in buying cat food than whether they’ve been romping amongst the courgettes!. (Actually I don’t like Courgettes so they can romp amongst them….but I draw the line at Spring Onions!)

It doesn’t affect you. It has no impact on your life and if you don’t want to think about it then stop thinking about it!. Nobody is forcing you to think about someone else’s sex life or their sexuality choice!!

Accept people for who they are and you’ll realise their lives are just the same as everyone else’s. They go to work, they watch Tv, we all do. 

So stop thinking about something that’s none of your business and get on with your own lives! 

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