Aspie or not Aspie. That is the question! 

Last week a neurotypical did something silly. 

They used the word “Aspie” in a tweet. 

I know, I know, I can hear your gasps of outrage from here. 

Soon enough the language police arrived and the poster was told in no uncertain terms that people in the community didn’t like the term “Aspie” and more than that, it was wrong!

Wrong! 

No, it’s not wrong. 

I follow several who use the word “Aspie” as part of their identity. It’s who I know them to be and they’re 100% entitled to identify with being Aspie if that’s their choice!

It’s not up to the community to police them. 

If you don’t like the word then don’t use it. Just don’t tell me what word I can use to describe myself. It’s not your business. It doesn’t hurt you, doesn’t affect you. By telling me what word I can use you are denying me a basic right. The right to choose. 

Stop policing us!. 

You can call yourself Aspie, Autie, Aspergic, Autistic, Neurodivergent or whatever label you like because you have freedom of choice!. 

I don’t care. 

It’s not my job to police you. The label you choose is the one you feel comfortable with in much the same way as you use a label to tell us your gender or sexuality. If you’re happy then so am I. 

It’s just another disappointment in the community. Another example of petty behaviour by our self appointed spokespersons who think they speak for eveyone. They whine about wanting acceptance, wanting understanding, wanting a voice and then display no acceptance, no understanding and deny a section that wishes to identify as Aspie, their own voice. 

Bunch of hypocrites. 

Sometimes it’s not hard to see why we aren’t taken seriously. 

Perhaps they think it’s divisive. The fact our diagnosis was Aspergers rather than Autistic. Or perhaps they link Aspergers with the terrible high functioning label and believe we use it to demonstrate some superiority ?. I don’t know. All I know is that I identify as “Aspie” because I think it’s a nice sounding term. It’s kinda cute. It’s nothing to do with superiority (as I have nothing to be superior about) 

So stop. Stop policing. Stop dictating what we can identify as. Stop trying to speak for everyone without asking first. Check your facts before you blunder in. 

Aspie or not Aspie ?. 

I like Aspie. 

I’m sticking with it!. 

3 thoughts on “Aspie or not Aspie. That is the question! 

  1. Amen, my friend!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. I totally agree. I use the Aspie term, too; I see nothing wrong with it for myself. I also wholeheartedly agree that people should stop policing others and get lives 😁. I’m a rare Twitter visitor for this very reason 💓💓

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    • Thank you. I was wondering where you had gone but it’s great to hear from you. Yes, sadly, Twitter has got very bad in terms of interference and policing. The self-appointed leaders of our community are doing more harm than good but they don’t listen.
      Stay safe.

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      • So true! The self-appointed leaders are the worst, almost doing more harm than good, despite genuine intentions. They called me out once for saying something like “morons”. They attacked another Aspie for saying that even though he’s male, he still faces adversity as an autistic person. And they just don’t back down. Ugh. I’m sorry you had to witness/experience what you did that fueled this post, but I really appreciate your writing it 👍🏼👍🏼💖

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